Past Fears; What to do When they Overwhelm
Past fears sometimes overwhelm me and ruin my entire day. The truth is, I never know when I will get struck by an old experience that throws me for a loop. It gets tiresome, to say the least. Just recently, I saw a picture of a young relative of mine on social media that showed her as BFF with a woman who, in a past job, was literally hired to take over my job. She was 20 years younger than me. That was a horrific time in my life. My heart raced when I learned about the friendship with my relative.
How I React Now
But, the difference now is that those overwhelming feelings don’t last for long. I’ve gained tools and understand how to get these types of onslaughts of past feelings in a matter of hours, sometimes minutes.
One of the things I’ve realized over the past few years is that I will never be “completely healed” from past fears. So, I accept that and there is no great surprise when past fears hit me like a punch in the gut.
Even with these ‘minor’ incidents throughout my days, my quality of life increases and the anxiety attacks are farther apart while I feel degrees of well-being for longer periods of time. This is progress. I can’t complain.
In fact, I feel the time in the near future when I will be more energetic, calm, clear-headed, and progressive than I’ve ever been in my life. I know this. I’ve simply improved so much that there’s no reason to believe that I will not continue to improve.
I recently came across a quote that really spoke to me. It gave me courage and I hope it does the same for you.
What to do in a moment of overwhelming fear from the past? Here are some quick things I like to do:
- Hug my cat and scratch her ears. Those endorphins are priceless.
- Perform EMDR for myself. It’s quick, easy, and it works.
- Stretching exercises are the best! Stretch and yawn and breath out all that stress.
- Take a warm shower or go for a walk. The ions from the shower and the fresh air from the walk will improve your state of mind every time.
- Take a melatonin tablet, drink lots of water and take a nap.
The really good news is that through the use of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), meditation, and my other daily practices of balance, they don’t harm me as much as they used to and some don’t harm me at all.
Although they are still vivid memories, they no longer carry the intense, painful emotions with them. I still feel emotions around these events, but they are manageable. From my perspective, that’s a huge relief.