Just let it go!
I wish it were that easy.
I hear this phrase frequently. It seems to be a catch-all for unanswerable questions that come up in therapeutic settings. It’s also a cop-out used casually by people who don’t want to deal with the issue at hand. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been told, “just let it go!” Wouldn’t it be amazing if it were that easy?
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When healing from PTSS, the process of letting go is a serious matter and it is not easy. It takes diligent effort through whatever tools are available to the victim to be able to finally “let it go!”. Once we get around to realizing that there is a solution to something that has plagued us our entire life, we are often in such bad shape that we could not possibly do this alone with no assistance from any technique, book, or professional. So, we then step forward and decide to seek out the tools and resources to help us move forward on our journey.
Some of the tools to accomplish this task are meditating regularly, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), eliminating toxins from our diets, healthy eating habits that do not add stress to our bodies, and one of my favorites, taking care of ourselves first so that we can be of service to others who still suffer.
I use an amazing visual that has helped me tremendously when I participate in EMDR therapy. When I watch the side-to-side motion, I visualize that there is a super high-speed train off to my side that is running from the front of me to the back of me and it is filled with the sore emotions of a past experience.
These experiences are rushed past me and go back, back, back into the past and eventually dissipate back into the energy of the universe to be swallowed up and re-energized as warm, beautiful, glowing, healing light.
Although I’ve spelled out my thoughts in detail for you, please note that this visualization takes place in nanoseconds as I experience the back and forth motions in front of me. And, this is my personal version of “Letting Go”. I have to say, it is immensely effective for me. I sincerely hope it helps you as well. I don’t forget anything that happened to me. But after use of this technique, the pain and emotions surrounding the disturbing event are gone.
“Changing the memories that form the way we see ourselves also changes the way we view others. Therefore, our relationships, job performance, what we are willing to do or are able to resist, all move in a positive direction.”
― Francine Shapiro, Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy
So, at least for someone with PTSS, I believe I’ve explained a bit of what it means to ‘Let Go’ of the pain and move forward with a lighter step in my day and just a little bit more sunshine and happiness. I sincerely hope this helps you learn to let go of the pain and misery of your past.
If anything I write resonates or brings up any issues within you please let me know in the comments below.