The powerful benefits of positive affirmations are something we can all use. Perhaps you’re a person who doesn’t know how to feel good without other people’s corroboration. If so, it’s especially difficult when you find yourself in a living or work situation wherein the people around you seem to do whatever they can to disparage you. In those instances, it might feel like it’s impossible to keep a positive outlook. However, the use of positive affirmations is an excellent tool that by intentional design is going to help you!
The facts are that no matter where you go, you are taking yourself with you. Furthermore, it isn’t your job to change difficult people. It is, however, your job to teach yourself how to deal with difficult people without allowing harm to yourself.
Furthermore, we all most likely agree that loveless acts by perpetrators are not always personal but it still hurts our self-assurance. Of course, there are many grey areas when it comes to affairs of the mind. In fact, we often have no way of knowing what the “difficult person” is going through. At the same time, it’s none of our business unless they open up about it. Our primary job remains to look in the mirror and change that person in the mirror’s response to unpleasant situations.
However, if you’re feeling down or think there’s no hope for something you are going through, here are some suggestions to help fight loneliness and disparagement while increasing your self-assurance with positive affirmations.
Learning to attract all good things with positive affirmations…
Seek out social media peeps, but use caution!
I think the most obvious modern choice is to open up accounts on social media. That’s actually a great idea, but, be sure to determine if someone you meet is there for business purposes or looking for friendship or both. You might also try to befriend at least a few people in your geographical location for possible meetups at a local restaurant for breakfast. If you have a cell phone with access to the internet, chances are you have access to social media in the palm of your hand. How easy is that?
Of course, we must take into account that those of us with social anxiety even have trouble connecting with people on social media but it’s still much easier. Just remember to keep your emotional boundaries in check or social media can wreak havoc with them. That’s because marketers know that emotions sell products and get the most attention, so it’s actually a good place for learning to exercise personal boundaries.
Personally, I can’t stay on social media for more than about half an hour at a time or I start tearing up or get angry. As a result, I’ve learned to filter out some of the noise but the best cure is to limit my time on the venues. So, you might want to consider that tactic.
There are tons of support groups online where you meet kindred spirits and start lines of communication with those you grow to trust. What’s really cool is the feedback you can get from your new online friends for honest feedback about your online appearance. So, don’t be afraid to make changes if you think they apply to you. However, the important piece here is that you make that choice. Don’t let anyone make it for you.
Be mindful about sharing your vulnerability.
It’s a nice way to improve your online presence and your own self-confidence at the same time. However, use caution before exposing your vulnerability to those who do not yet deserve it. This only requires a little mindfulness on your part to screen people for their level of sensitivity.
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
But keep asking questions when you meet someone new, even if it’s personal feedback about you. If you think about it, their answer might give you an insight into them that you did not otherwise have which is another good tactic to get to know someone better.
Use online messaging systems to stay in contact with loved ones.
One of the most common reasons for getting a little blue is because you are far away from family and friends. However noble your reason may be for the separation, it’s not pleasant for most people but there are ways to deal with it. Boy, we have had our fair share of distancing during the past year, haven’t we? No one saw COVID coming and it is making an indelible permanent impact on our entire society.
So, pick up the phone and make calls to keep lines of communication open with those you love. Keep your contact list updated and send random texts of cheer and inspiration to everyone on your list.
If you experience phone anxieties as I do, go ahead and use the online messaging systems instead. Use Skype, Facebook Messenger, or any other face-to-face software as a service. It makes your separation anxiety easier to deal with when you are in touch with your loved ones. Immensely easier. So relax and set up your devices for a better level of communication.
Continue to search for ways to open up lines of communication with people in your life and with new people as well. Remember, we are all in this world together and no time is better than now to fully understand that we are one human race! Stay positive, stay strong, and stay safe.
Together we light the way.🔥
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