Our Lives are Shaped by Perpetrators

I knew something was not right with me. But like most victims, I kept it buried deep inside and talked to no one about it. I knew I was too easily swayed into bad situations, but I didn’t know how to stop it. I knew that I didn’t want to treat others the way I had been treated and most of the time, became so wishy-washy and clingy in an attempt ‘make everyone around me feel good’ that people couldn’t stand me.

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Let It Go; What does that mean?

I hear this phrase frequently. It seems to be a catch-all for unanswerable questions that come up in therapeutic settings. It’s also a cop-out used casually by people who don’t want to deal with the issue at hand. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been told, “just let it go!” Wouldn’t it be amazing if it were that easy?

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