I hear this phrase frequently. It seems to be a catch-all for unanswerable questions that come up in therapeutic settings. It’s also a cop-out used casually by people who don’t want to deal with the issue at hand. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been told, “just let it go!” Wouldn’t it be amazing if it were that easy?
There are days when I get very overwhelmed with the past and I never know when I will get struck by an old experience that throws me for a loop. It gets tiresome, to say the least.
I participated in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy about 2 years ago. Now, I look back and clearly see the anxiety I lived with on a daily basis throughout my life and therefore, how anxiety ruled my life.
As an adult, I attended several treatment programs designed for alcoholics which helped with the compulsions temporarily but it was nothing more than a bandaide for me.