Just let it go! I wish it were that easy.
Let it go! What does that mean? It seems to be a catch-all for unanswerable questions that come up in therapeutic settings. It’s also a cop-out people use casually when they don’t want to address the issue at hand. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been told, “just let it go!” Ok! Poof! Magic! 🔮
I’m so sorry. It doesn’t work that way. When we heal from PTSS, the process to ‘just let it go’ is a serious matter and it is not easy. It takes diligent effort through whatever tools are available to the victim finally ‘let it go’.
Live in the Solution
Once we realize that there is a solution to something that has plagued us our entire life, we are often in such bad shape that we could not possibly do this alone without assistance from techniques, books, or professionals. So, we then step forward and decide to seek out the tools necessary to help us move forward in our journey.
Some of the tools to accomplish this task are regular meditation, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), toxins elimination from our diets, holistic health habits, and one of my favorites; we take care of ourselves first so that we can be of service to others who still suffer.
A Great Visual
I use an amazing visual that has helped me tremendously when I participate in EMDR therapy. When I watch the side-to-side motion, I visualize that there is a super high-speed train off to my side that is running from the front of me to the back of me and it is filled with the sore emotions of a past experience.
These experiences are rushed past me and go back, back, back into the past and eventually dissipate back into the energy of the universe to be swallowed up and re-energized as a warm, beautiful, light that heals all it touches.
Although I’ve spelled out my thoughts in detail for you, please note that this visualization takes place in nanoseconds as I experience the back and forth motions in front of me. And, this is my personal version of ‘let it go’. It is immensely effective for me so I sincerely hope it helps you as well. I don’t forget anything that happened to me. But after use of this technique, the pain and emotions around the event are gone.
Change the Memories
“Changing the memories that form the way we see ourselves also changes the way we view others. Therefore, our relationships, job performance, what we are willing to do or are able to resist, all move in a positive direction.”
― Francine Shapiro, Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy
So, at least for someone with PTSS, I believe I’ve explained a bit of what it means to ‘let it go’. It enables me to erase the pain and move forward with a lighter step in my day and just a little bit more sunshine and happiness. I sincerely hope this helps you learn to let go of the pain and misery of your past.
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